{"id":8612,"date":"2026-09-17T06:53:53","date_gmt":"2026-09-17T06:53:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/?p=8612"},"modified":"2026-09-17T06:53:53","modified_gmt":"2026-09-17T06:53:53","slug":"everyone-was-talking-about-my-secret-relationship-with-my-77-year-old-neighbor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/?p=8612","title":{"rendered":"Everyone was talking about my \u201cSECRET RELATIONSHIP\u201d with my 77-year-old neighbor"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Susan reached beneath her blanket.<\/p>\n

When her hand came back out, she was holding a photograph.<\/p>\n

I knew the picture before she even turned it toward me.<\/p>\n

A young woman stood on a beach, laughing into the wind.<\/p>\n

Dark hair.<\/p>\n

Green eyes.<\/p>\n

Yellow sundress.<\/p>\n

My wife.<\/p>\n

Emily.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I looked away.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cJake.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI said no.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou promised me.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI promised I’d try.\u201d<\/p>\n

Susan placed the photograph between us.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou’ve been trying for five years.\u201d<\/p>\n

My throat tightened.<\/p>\n

Susan’s voice softened.<\/p>\n

\u201cTonight you finish.\u201d<\/p>\n

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The rumors had gotten one thing completely wrong.<\/p>\n

Susan wasn’t a lonely old woman I’d randomly befriended.<\/p>\n

She was Emily’s mother.<\/p>\n

My mother-in-law.<\/p>\n

And five years earlier, I’d been the one who told her that her only daughter was dead.<\/p>\n

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Emily and I had been married for three years.<\/p>\n

We weren’t perfect.<\/p>\n

We fought about money.<\/p>\n

About work.<\/p>\n

About my habit of leaving cabinet doors open.<\/p>\n

She hated the way I drove.<\/p>\n

I hated the way she set seven alarms every morning and somehow slept through all of them.<\/p>\n

But I loved her.<\/p>\n

Completely.<\/p>\n

Then one rainy Tuesday night, a driver crossed the center line.<\/p>\n

Emily died before I reached the hospital.<\/p>\n

She was twenty-eight.<\/p>\n

I was twenty-six.<\/p>\n

Susan was seventy-one.<\/p>\n

And neither of us ever recovered properly.<\/p>\n

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For the first few months, Susan and I saw each other constantly.<\/p>\n

Then grief did something strange.<\/p>\n

It pushed us apart.<\/p>\n

I couldn’t walk into her house because Emily was everywhere.<\/p>\n

Her childhood pictures.<\/p>\n

Her graduation photograph.<\/p>\n

The chipped ceramic mug she’d made her mother in middle school.<\/p>\n

Susan couldn’t come to my place because Emily’s clothes were still hanging in our closet.<\/p>\n

So we gradually stopped visiting.<\/p>\n

We lived across the street from each other and sometimes went weeks without speaking.<\/p>\n

Five years of grief separated by forty feet of pavement.<\/p>\n

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Until I found her on the kitchen floor.<\/p>\n

At the hospital, the doctors found more than dehydration and weakness.<\/p>\n

Susan had advanced pancreatic cancer.<\/p>\n

It had already spread.<\/p>\n

Treatment might buy some time.<\/p>\n

It wasn’t going to give her years.<\/p>\n

Susan understood immediately.<\/p>\n

I didn’t.<\/p>\n

I kept asking about specialists.<\/p>\n

Different hospitals.<\/p>\n

Clinical trials.<\/p>\n

Second opinions.<\/p>\n

Finally Susan touched my arm.<\/p>\n

\u201cJake.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cKnow what?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThat I’m dying.\u201d<\/p>\n

I hated her for saying it.<\/p>\n

Not really.<\/p>\n

But for a few seconds, I did.<\/p>\n

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The first night she stayed with me, Susan couldn’t sleep.<\/p>\n

At 9:00, she called my name.<\/p>\n

I went into the guest room.<\/p>\n

\u201cCan you sit?\u201d<\/p>\n

So I sat.<\/p>\n

Then she said:<\/p>\n

\u201cTell me about the last morning.\u201d<\/p>\n

I knew exactly what she meant.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cPlease.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cSusan.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI’ve never asked.\u201d<\/p>\n

That was true.<\/p>\n

In five years, she’d never asked me to describe the day Emily died.<\/p>\n

So I told her about breakfast.<\/p>\n

Emily burned her toast.<\/p>\n

She’d been wearing one blue sock and one gray one.<\/p>\n

She kissed me before leaving.<\/p>\n

Then came back thirty seconds later because she’d forgotten her phone.<\/p>\n

Susan smiled.<\/p>\n

\u201cThat sounds like her.\u201d<\/p>\n

We talked for almost an hour.<\/p>\n

The next night, at exactly nine, she called me again.<\/p>\n

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That became our ritual.<\/p>\n

Every night.<\/p>\n

One hour.<\/p>\n

One memory of Emily.<\/p>\n

Nothing more.<\/p>\n

Some nights Susan talked.<\/p>\n

Some nights I did.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we laughed.<\/p>\n

Sometimes neither of us made it ten minutes without crying.<\/p>\n

We talked about Emily’s first day of kindergarten.<\/p>\n

Her terrible high-school haircut.<\/p>\n

The time she backed Susan’s car into the mailbox and blamed the mailbox.<\/p>\n

Our first date.<\/p>\n

Our wedding.<\/p>\n

The miscarriage Emily and I had never told anyone about.<\/p>\n

That revelation broke Susan.<\/p>\n

I immediately regretted telling her.<\/p>\n

But she took my hand.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo more secrets,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

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There was one subject I refused to discuss.<\/p>\n

The accident.<\/p>\n

Every time Susan moved toward it, I stopped.<\/p>\n

\u201cNot that.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cJake\u2014\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n

For five years, I’d given everyone the shortened version.<\/p>\n

A car crossed the center line.<\/p>\n

Emily died.<\/p>\n

End of story.<\/p>\n

But Susan knew there was more.<\/p>\n

Because she’d read the police report.<\/p>\n

And because I had been driving.<\/p>\n

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That night, while Tom and Lisa stood outside accusing me of sleeping with their aunt, Susan placed Emily’s photograph between us.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou have to finish it tonight.\u201d<\/p>\n

My hands trembled.<\/p>\n

\u201cI was driving.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cIt was raining.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cEmily was angry with me.\u201d<\/p>\n

Susan waited.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe’d been fighting.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cAbout what?\u201d<\/p>\n

I swallowed.<\/p>\n

\u201cA job.\u201d<\/p>\n

Emily had been offered a position in Seattle.<\/p>\n

I didn’t want to move.<\/p>\n

She did.<\/p>\n

The argument started at dinner and continued in the car.<\/p>\n

\u201cShe said I never supported anything that scared me.\u201d<\/p>\n

Susan listened.<\/p>\n

\u201cI told her she was selfish.\u201d<\/p>\n

My voice broke.<\/p>\n

\u201cShe said maybe we’d become people who loved each other but weren’t good for each other anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n

That was the last full sentence my wife ever said to me.<\/p>\n

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\u201cWhat happened next?\u201d Susan whispered.<\/p>\n

\u201cI looked at her.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cHow long?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cA second. Maybe two.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd then?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen I looked back\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

Headlights.<\/p>\n

Too close.<\/p>\n

A pickup had crossed partially into our lane after losing traction.<\/p>\n

I jerked the wheel.<\/p>\n

The police investigation concluded the other driver had crossed the center line first.<\/p>\n

He was cited and later faced consequences related to reckless driving.<\/p>\n

But I’d spent five years obsessing over those two seconds.<\/p>\n

If I hadn’t looked at Emily.<\/p>\n

If I had reacted sooner.<\/p>\n

If we’d never argued.<\/p>\n

If I’d driven slower.<\/p>\n

If.<\/p>\n

If.<\/p>\n

If.<\/p>\n

\u201cI killed her.\u201d<\/p>\n

Susan’s expression hardened.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI was driving.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou were driving the car she died in. That’s not the same sentence.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI looked away.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cFor two seconds during an argument.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cTwo seconds were enough.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cMaybe.\u201d<\/p>\n

That answer shocked me.<\/p>\n

She didn’t tell me it didn’t matter.<\/p>\n

Because it did.<\/p>\n

Then she said:<\/p>\n

\u201cBut responsibility isn’t something you get to invent simply because guilt feels more understandable than randomness.\u201d<\/p>\n

I stared at her.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe other vehicle crossed into your lane. The investigation established that.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI might have avoided it.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cMight.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI should’ve\u2014\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cJake.\u201d<\/p>\n

Her voice sharpened.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou have punished yourself for five years over a different ending you cannot prove was ever available to you.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Someone pounded on the front door.<\/p>\n

Tom.<\/p>\n

\u201cJake!\u201d<\/p>\n

Susan rolled her eyes.<\/p>\n

\u201cPersistent idiot.\u201d<\/p>\n

Despite everything, I laughed.<\/p>\n

Then she started coughing.<\/p>\n

Hard.<\/p>\n

I helped her sit forward.<\/p>\n

The coughing lasted almost a minute.<\/p>\n

When it stopped, she looked exhausted.<\/p>\n

\u201cCall them in.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cTom and Lisa.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou don’t need this.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYes, I do.\u201d<\/p>\n

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They came into the bedroom furious.<\/p>\n

Tom immediately pointed at me.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf he’s pressured you to change your will\u2014\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOh, shut up, Thomas.\u201d<\/p>\n

Tom actually stopped speaking.<\/p>\n

Susan looked at Lisa.<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd you.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen was the last time you called me before you heard I was staying here?\u201d<\/p>\n

Lisa’s mouth opened.<\/p>\n

Susan waited.<\/p>\n

Nothing.<\/p>\n

\u201cExactly.\u201d<\/p>\n

Tom tried again.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe were worried.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cNo. You were worried about what I might sign.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cThat isn’t fair.\u201d<\/p>\n

Susan gave him a tired smile.<\/p>\n

\u201cLife has given you forty-nine years to become interesting, Tom. Don’t choose tonight.\u201d<\/p>\n

I had to look down to hide my reaction.<\/p>\n

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Then Susan told them the truth.<\/p>\n

About the cancer.<\/p>\n

Neither knew.<\/p>\n

Tom sat down.<\/p>\n

Lisa began crying.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhy didn’t you tell us?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI tried.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou never\u2014\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI called you from the hospital.\u201d<\/p>\n

Lisa stopped.<\/p>\n

I remembered.<\/p>\n

Busy with the kids.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tom stared at the floor.<\/p>\n

Susan continued:<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd what Jake and I do at nine every night is talk about Emily.\u201d<\/p>\n

Lisa looked at me.<\/p>\n

\u201cEmily?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cMy daughter,\u201d Susan said. \u201cHis wife. Your cousin. Remember her?\u201d<\/p>\n

The cruelty was deliberate.<\/p>\n

I didn’t entirely approve.<\/p>\n

But I understood.<\/p>\n

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Tom looked confused.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhy close the door?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cBecause grief isn’t community theater.\u201d<\/p>\n

Nobody answered that.<\/p>\n

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Then came the question I’d been dreading.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe house,\u201d Tom said quietly. \u201cWhat happens to it?\u201d<\/p>\n

Susan closed her eyes.<\/p>\n

I wanted to throw him out.<\/p>\n

But she answered.<\/p>\n

\u201cMy estate plan was completed three years ago.\u201d<\/p>\n

Before she ever moved into my home.<\/p>\n

Before the cancer diagnosis.<\/p>\n

Before our nightly conversations.<\/p>\n

Her attorney had prepared it.<\/p>\n

Independent witnesses had signed it.<\/p>\n

I hadn’t been present.<\/p>\n

The house wasn’t being left to me.<\/p>\n

Susan had arranged for it to be sold.<\/p>\n

A portion would go to Tom and Lisa.<\/p>\n

Another portion would go to a scholarship fund at the community college where Emily had studied nursing.<\/p>\n

Her personal belongings were divided through written instructions.<\/p>\n

I received one thing.<\/p>\n

Emily’s piano.<\/p>\n

That was all.<\/p>\n

Tom blinked.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe piano?\u201d<\/p>\n

Susan smiled.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe hates that piano.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI do.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cEmily loved it.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cShe played the same four songs.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cBadly.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cTerribly.\u201d<\/p>\n

Susan smiled.<\/p>\n

\u201cSo you’re taking it.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Susan lived another four months.<\/p>\n

The doctors had initially thought it might be less.<\/p>\n

We got one final Thanksgiving.<\/p>\n

Tom came.<\/p>\n

Lisa came.<\/p>\n

Not because everything was suddenly repaired.<\/p>\n

It wasn’t.<\/p>\n

But the accusations stopped.<\/p>\n

They began helping.<\/p>\n

Lisa took Susan to several appointments.<\/p>\n

Tom handled grocery runs.<\/p>\n

Sometimes guilt produces temporary kindness.<\/p>\n

Sometimes that kindness grows into something more durable.<\/p>\n

With Tom, I’m still not sure.<\/p>\n

With Lisa, it did.<\/p>\n

She apologized to me privately.<\/p>\n

Not for believing I wanted money.<\/p>\n

For repeating the other rumor.<\/p>\n

\u201cI knew it sounded disgusting,\u201d she said. \u201cI repeated it anyway.\u201d<\/p>\n

I appreciated that she didn’t soften it.<\/p>\n

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Our nine o’clock meetings continued.<\/p>\n

Every night.<\/p>\n

But after the night I finally described the accident, they changed.<\/p>\n

We stopped circling only around Emily’s death.<\/p>\n

We started talking about Susan.<\/p>\n

Her childhood.<\/p>\n

Her marriage.<\/p>\n

Her regrets.<\/p>\n

The man she’d almost married before Emily’s father.<\/p>\n

The time she stole twenty dollars from her mother’s purse at fourteen.<\/p>\n

The fact that she hated lavender even though everyone kept buying her lavender-scented gifts because \u201cold ladies apparently aren’t allowed other smells.\u201d<\/p>\n

I wrote things down.<\/p>\n

At her request.<\/p>\n

Not a will.<\/p>\n

Stories.<\/p>\n

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Three nights before she died, Susan handed me a notebook.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat’s this?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYour next assignment.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI thought school ended when you got cancer.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cUnfortunately for you, I’m tenured.\u201d<\/p>\n

Inside were questions.<\/p>\n

Dozens.<\/p>\n

What did Emily laugh like?<\/strong><\/p>\n

What frightened her?<\/strong><\/p>\n

What did she order on your first date?<\/strong><\/p>\n

What was your worst argument?<\/strong><\/p>\n

What did she forgive you for?<\/strong><\/p>\n

What did you never forgive yourself for?<\/strong><\/p>\n

At the bottom:<\/p>\n

Who are you if you stop being the man whose wife died?<\/strong><\/p>\n

I hated that question.<\/p>\n

I still do.<\/p>\n

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Susan died shortly after 4:00 one morning.<\/p>\n

I was beside her.<\/p>\n

Lisa was on the other side of the bed.<\/p>\n

Tom arrived fifteen minutes too late.<\/p>\n

He cried harder than either of us.<\/p>\n

Grief doesn’t always measure love accurately.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it measures regret.<\/p>\n

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After the funeral, I went into Susan’s house.<\/p>\n

Her attorney had asked me to collect the piano.<\/p>\n

I sat on the bench.<\/p>\n

Pressed one key.<\/p>\n

Then another.<\/p>\n

I remembered Emily playing.<\/p>\n

Badly.<\/p>\n

I could almost hear Susan shouting from the kitchen:<\/p>\n

\u201cUse both hands!\u201d<\/p>\n

I started laughing.<\/p>\n

Then crying.<\/p>\n

Then both.<\/p>\n

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Months later, the neighborhood rumors disappeared.<\/p>\n

Rumors usually do when reality becomes less entertaining than whatever people invented.<\/p>\n

Susan’s house was sold.<\/p>\n

The scholarship was established in Emily’s name.<\/p>\n

The first recipient was a nineteen-year-old nursing student whose mother worked nights at a grocery store.<\/p>\n

I met her once.<\/p>\n

I didn’t tell her the whole story.<\/p>\n

She didn’t need to inherit our grief just because she received help from it.<\/p>\n

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I kept the piano.<\/p>\n

And the notebook.<\/p>\n

For almost a year, I couldn’t answer Susan’s final question.<\/p>\n

Who are you if you stop being the man whose wife died?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Eventually, I wrote:<\/p>\n

I don’t know yet.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Then underneath:<\/p>\n

But I think I’m allowed to find out.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That would’ve made Susan happy.<\/p>\n

Probably not satisfied.<\/p>\n

She was difficult to satisfy.<\/p>\n

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People had watched me walk into a 76-year-old woman’s bedroom every night and close the door.<\/p>\n

They invented greed because Susan owned a house.<\/p>\n

They invented sex because I was young and single.<\/p>\n

Nobody guessed the truth because the truth was less scandalous and far more painful.<\/p>\n

Every night at exactly nine, two people sat behind that door and spoke the name of the same woman.<\/p>\n

One had lost a daughter.<\/p>\n

The other had lost a wife.<\/p>\n

For five years, we’d grieved separately from opposite sides of the same street.<\/p>\n

Susan’s final months forced us into the same room.<\/p>\n

And the thing she made me finish that last night wasn’t paperwork.<\/p>\n

It wasn’t a will.<\/p>\n

It wasn’t some secret confession about money.<\/p>\n

It was the story of the night Emily died\u2014a story I’d stopped telling before the part where I blamed myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Susan didn’t spend her last months giving me her house.<\/p>\n

She spent them trying to give me permission to leave the room after 9:00 and finally keep living.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Susan reached beneath her blanket. When her hand came back out, she was holding a photograph. I knew the picture before she even turned it toward me. A young woman stood on a beach, laughing into the wind. Dark hair. Green eyes. Yellow sundress. My wife. Emily. I looked away. \u201cNo.\u201d \u201cJake.\u201d \u201cI said no.\u201d […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5183,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8612","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-interesting"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8612","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8612"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8612\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8613,"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8612\/revisions\/8613"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/5183"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8612"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8612"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tappyli.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8612"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}